I think it’s time I found some friends who will call me their friend as well.
edited clarification: I mean, people who want to say hi to me, not just after I’ve said hi to them, people who want to include me, people who enjoy sitting with me at lunch, people who enjoy talking with me. Not those with whom I have to butt my way in if I want to do something with them. People who reciprocate; people who are appreciative.
(yes comments that argue my lament are wholeheartedly welcome!)
Hi! Wanna grab some pizza and then go play ultimate Frisbee?
yeah
hey, i totally sit to eat with you without being invited and say hi first when i’m wearing my glasses and can see you. you are officially my friend, whether you like it or not and despite the fact that we disagree about which ff’s were better. submit to my friendship! or…um…else.
Yeah, I’m not saying there aren’t people like that here – it’s just that a lot of people who I’ve known for a while (not really Ron or Saku either) seem to be really tired of dealing with me. I just passed by someone who seemed to be saying hi really cordially and everything to everyone, and when I said hi to her, she was like “oh hi” and jetted.
That’s hard.
I’d sit and say hi with you!
Not cus I exactily LIKE you, just because you’re freakin’ weird – you’re not the kind of person I wouldn’t like.
If that makes any sense. – Oh, and about the not liking you, I mean only that we’re not formal “hey lets go see a movie!” friends, not that I actually don’t like you. I just don’t know if I do.
But I’ll still say hi.
Hi.
I feel the same way here sometimes. Actually, frequently. I don’t like the fact that anything I do after school or on the weekends has to be discovered instead of presented to me. I mean I have a few here, and a few more in Marin, but I know precisely how you feel.
Furthermore, you know I’d invite you to shit if I could, or sit with you or whatnot. In some ways, I even look up to you.
Maybe you’re thinking too much.
I usually wait until someone contacts me to come out, unless I really had someone I wanted to be with. That doesn’t happen too often, so it’s usually someone contacting me first. IM online is the same way.
If you do lots of nice things for people, sometimes they’ll start thinking of you more often. i don’t know.
I think you’re worrying about nothing. There are a lot of people I consider friends that don’t consider me a friend. I don’t want to hang over something like that, because the ones who do call me friends need me more than people I know don’t consider me one.
If I lived a little bit closer I’d probably hang out with you on a somewhat regular fashion.
/gay
I know of that phenomenon from television! Doesn’t sound plausible in the real world.
I said hi to you the other day as you were leaving from the dining hall.
Mm, we should hang out for lunch or something sometime, because we don’t really talk too often or know much about each other, I guess.
Ironically enough, depending on how bothered this thing is making you IRL, people could be saying hi to you and you, thinking about this… could give out a halfhearted or worried ‘hi’ and it might make them feel suspicous or down…
Don’t let it bother you. People are the center of their own shitstorms–I mean–universes… unless they’re body checking you and giving you swirlies then any indifference towards you is probably just perceived on your part.
If long standing aquaintances seem a little off to you. Why not inquire into them a little. Like a general ‘what’s up?’ not ‘Are u mad at me?’ (read: NEVER that last one) because they probably aren’t mad at you… But something is always up.
I like to think of myself as such, although if I’m not ever-present at Lunch and/or hanging out with ya otherwise, It’s because I’m busy, stressed, lazy or various combinations of the three. :-p
I agree with michiru in that sometimes it’s better to let others call you. maybe I’m not as social as you are, but I find I often have much to occupy my time, and friends are great, but sometimes I even feel like I spend to much time with them (and I only spend a little while). not to mention, I’ve been friends with the same three people my entire life (simbo, jeff, and you). I’ve met others who I am good friends with now, nick davies primarily comes to mind. so yes, I consider you a friend. if I saw you, I would say hello, and at least chat for a little while unless I was in a really big hurry.
sometimes I wonder why no one calls me, or invites me to do things, but then I realize that people generally don’t have that much time. things they invite me to I often decline because I’m too busy with other stuff. I’ve kind of gotten used to sticking around at home and doing things that I want to do. it’s kind of the way I am. if I start thinking I need to get out more, than I do the calling of people and the making of plans, but most of the time I sit at my computer answering livejournal posts instead
-Arthur
Thing is, I have a lot of free time. I spend a lot of it alone. I’m waiting all the time for people to go and invite me to do things, but I always end up being the one to coordinate stuff – and if anyone else is coordinating anything, I have to ask to go along.
I do make a conscious effort to socialize when I have free time, but others do not make an effort to socialize with me on their time.
well… get this… the more you organize things, the better you’ll be at it… I SUCK at organizing things… so then, when it comes to the important parts like inviting a girl to dinner, I end up not knowing where to go or what not… it’s pretty lame.
I’m probably not the best person for getting advice about these things, heh
-Arthur
Hi!
hello 🙂