War of the Cliques

Here's the obligatory disclaimer. Jeez, these are getting tiring. Just to disprove any thoughts of my senility and lack of depth, I have told this story many a time to people at school already, so don't comment saying that I'm repeating myself. I'm fully aware.

Throughout the years, my social level has slowly been rising. This "throughout the years" garbage started at the beginning of 3rd grade, when I left Fremont, in the east San Francisco Bay Area, and moved with my mom to Marin.

It could have been that these elementary years were crucial in conforming to the social norm, and my abrupt placement into a whole different set of kids threw me off. Gone were the ages of pretending I was Sonic the Hedgehog, riding the swift currents of the Labrynth Zone, with my best friends by my side. (They went by the names of Silver Sonic, Tails, and Emerald Sonic. 1st Grade is an appropriate age to manipulate Sonic characters *ahem cough sprite comics*)

Instead, I made a social living off drawing pictures of Sonic the Hedgehog. My first year in Marin was spent doing requested artwork. I had lots of friends, and I was the strange yet alluring new kid.

Then I started hanging out with the "wrong crowd."

In came Simeon, Arthur, and Jeff, two of whom have appeared in my comic. They quickly became my best friends. My first continuous comic series, the Video Game H.Q. (made in 4th grade, hence the childish name), starred Arthur and me, and Jeff and Simeon made frequent visits. You can tell by the name of the comic (and by Simeon's behavior in his comic - he's the guy in the 4th frame) that we were the nerd group at our elementary school. My social level was set. From then on, no matter what I embarked on, be it soccer practice or be it summer camp, I was always seen as the "nerd." This cut into my self-esteem, and for many years, I was depressed.

Then came more friends. I found out that I wasn't alone. Knowing that many around me have gone through the same social placement (some may say "rejection," but factoring in the concept of cliques, no one is really rejected), my self-esteem slowly came back. By mid-high school, I was in high spirits once again, and to this day, my friend base is steadily growing.

But... the world refused to change.

Although I have so many friends nowadays, that doesn't really mean that I've reached beyond my clique. There are those out there who watch me and others from afar, giddly pricking us as our backs are turned. The other cliques have evolved as well.

"JEFFREY FAGGIN'!" someone shouted as they had stumbled upon the new, beckoning, mysterious word. My 6th grade body turned toward them, and tears welled up in my eyes. I wasn't a "fag!" How dare they take my name and ridicule me like that! Now that "Faden" sounds like "Faggot," this name will follow me 'till doomsday!

A year later, I noticed how stupid that name is, and I shrugged it off.

A year ago, I heard it again.

The jock clique, having retracted back into itself and resorted to potty humor and childish behavior for laughs and social advancement, has rediscovered the art of name-calling. I am once again a pseudonym, this time going under the name "Jeffrey Faded." They have also conjured up the new, hilarious name for my occasional lunchtime activity - "ADDDDDDR," or "Attention Deficit Disorder Dungeons and Dragons Dance Dance Revolution."

This time, I would not cry and hide myself. I, in all of my glory, would initiate battle with the jock clique.

The current status of the war is as follows:

First wave of complete ignorance has failed. The jocks still insist on the name calling.

Second wave of retortion was aborted. Finding any name to call them would be stooping down to their level. Historically, this has failed.

Third wave is currently in action. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. This seems to be working. I have perfected my 50's Sitcom Father Laugh - perhaps in the near future, I will have slicked hair and a pipe to go along with it. I use this to counterattack when the usual names appear. "Ha! Ha! Ha! Jeffrey Faded, that sure is a swell play on my name! How frightfully clever! I think I will use it myself!" The official adoption of pseudonym Jeffrey Faded has taken place. If this doesn't dumb down the overuse of this term, I will go to even higher extremes. Maybe I could make a shirt that says "Jeffrey Faden D Loves to Play ADDDDDDR!" If that doesn't get them to back down and realize how stupid their name calling is, then it's onto the fourth wave of actual physical violence, which I'm sure will not happen.

Posted by JeffreyAtW at December 06, 2002 04:46 PM | TrackBack

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Evil b Kiwi:

No Comment

( 6/12/02 06:21 PM)

JeffreyAtW:

For any new people reading my blog, my last name is Faden, pronounced Fayden. It's no big secret... you just won't be able to find that info as easily these days because I like to go as JeffreyAtW on the net.

( 6/12/02 07:30 PM)

Almasy Marquis:

I like how all the people who made fun of me in elementary and high school are still back in Key West, dying.

( 6/12/02 08:34 PM)

CaptainCanada:

Heheh, I think Indogutsu lives in Key West. >_

And Szabo, for one, isn't an ass about DDR by himself, he watched me play at that Scandia-ripoff place in Fresno that I'll eventually blog about (maybe just to be polite around my parents, who knows). He said I was "really good".

Make the t-shirts. I guess I kinda have myself to blame since I started the club, and just happened to locate it in the class you have after lunch. But god damn, if this is happening every Tuesday and Friday to you, unnghhh...tell Doherty, even though that's the pansy-ass way out.

( 6/12/02 09:56 PM)

Indogutsu "Frozen Rosen" Tenbuki:

Actually, I was born in Miami, lived there up until August 2001, and moved to Gainesville. But I went to Key West once or twice.

Last I heard, all the people who made fun of me in elementary and high school went to fancy colleges in places like Michigan and Pennsylvania, began their own Internet startup companies, got married, raised families, and made so much money from their online ventures that they were able to retire by the age of 22.

( 7/12/02 10:46 PM)

Almasy Marquis:

You should kill them.

( 7/12/02 11:34 PM)

Indogutsu "Big Tsu" Tenbuki:

Right. And get sent to Federal Pound-Me-In-The-Ass Prison. And become "good friends" with a muscular tattooed guy named Bubba. No thanks, I'd rather write a bunch of snotty and bitter stories about them. But I can see your logic; sometimes I think I'm in the exact same position as the Columbine shooters were.

( 7/12/02 11:42 PM)

Almasy Marquis:

Presumably you're a lot smarter than they were. Also, I'm sure it's clear to everyone in the known universe, but I was indeed making a joke.

( 7/12/02 11:54 PM)

JeffreyAtW:

I'll go Columbine on their asses! Yeah, I have as much as a reason as Harris and Klebold did!

Oh, and then I'll shoot myself, because I'm going Columbine, as I said.

( 8/12/02 12:06 AM)

Almasy Marquis:

Ugh.

( 8/12/02 12:37 AM)

P.Diddy:

Weaksizzle:

I can remember a few instances when people made picked on me:

In 2nd grade, when someone called me a Chinese Faggot.
In 5th grade, I got called a teacher's pet.
In 6th grade, I got canned.

I'm sure lots of people talk crap about me to this day (e.g. sex with Sara Mykytyn X[ )

What happened to the people above (respectively):
He's a drug addict, but is cool with me.
She's a drug addict, and I haven't seen her in a while.
He moved to Iowa, where everyone harrases him for being a Californian.

I guess I've used the forgive and forget method a lot when people make fun of me, but as long as I still have time to develop muscles and learn to beat the life out of them, I'll be ok.

( 8/12/02 01:24 AM)

Chex-Mixer:

Amen

( 8/12/02 12:41 PM)

Malicious Bug:

Hehehe... "faggin"? That doesn't even sound like Faden. For a minute, until I read your first comment, I thought your name was pronounced differently than I'd thought.

"Wave 1" works a lot better than you'd think, but often leads to Wave 4 more often than not. I generally stick with Wave 3, except I pretty much roll on the floor laughing at how unbelievably funny they are. But, uh, keep in mind that they're called "jocks" for a reason, when it comes to physical violence.

( 8/12/02 01:14 PM)

JeffreyAtW:

I think that everyone's taking it a bit too seriously. Although I brought myself to make a blog out of it (!) I'm not angry at anyone and I don't hate anyone for name calling. That'd be childish.

Being picked on is not such a big deal. Just as long as you don't go into Mr. 4th Wave, then it should just be a silly fun time happy land yay.

( 8/12/02 01:57 PM)

Chex-Mixer:

"silly fun time happy land yay"...

Right...

..
~

( 8/12/02 02:13 PM)

Evil b Kiwi:

Actually I was born with the privlage of being the OWNER of a name really hard to mock, so the only thing I have been called is NERD. I stand proudly under that title! Nerds of the world, untie!

( 8/12/02 02:49 PM)

JeffreyAtW:

Bad Gryphon! Ha, I am extreme!

( 8/12/02 03:13 PM)

If you beat me with a stick I won't go away!:

Yea I remember the days of name calling. In the elementary days (Grade 3-7 and 9) were the times when I was called names. Since I had hair that was fairly long in grad 3-6 I was most of the time called a girl (and even mistake for one by adults). So of course everyone at school picked this up and used it. There were also of course the Fag and other names called by the imbiciles. The thing is that in 8th Grade (I moved again) it wasn't that bad... Only that for some reason a person didn't like one of my jokes and thought I was going to go on a rampage. Therefore I had to go to counsiling for six months for about two hours each week.

But the thing is that when I moved to where I currently am last year (a place with a nice school, the people are extremely nice, and it seems that everything around is well) everything smoothed out and the names stopped because no one knew me. Sure there are the Jocks, the Nerds, and the other cliques of the school but they don't bother me. I have friends in most of the circles of schools (mainly because I'm the silent type and can mingle with any crowd). So I have friends that play sports, friends that wear all black, friends that like D&D and RPing, people that read lots of books, even the people that are in JROTC.

Discrimination in schools is a very hard thing to deal with, I've been called names and been pushed around too. Hell, a could of times I actualy got into fights with people because they were calling me names (this one time I choked someone until he almost passed out, of course he was doing the same to me too). But the thing is that now I'm in a new place where no one knows me I can have the leisure of not having to share my background with any of the people here. Hell wen I came here I was only asked a few times where I came from and that was the extent of my background to the other students.

I would say that the easiest way to deal with these problems is to ignore them. Of course I know that this doesn't always work well at all. Seeing that you have the exact idea of what you want to do it seems that it'll work out. Hopefully these gorillas will notice their immaturity and wise-up.

( 8/12/02 07:04 PM)

JeffreyAtW:

I don't know if it's "wising up" that will fix them. They're pretty smart... some of those "smart jocks" who are so popular and mean that they are just... evil.

Eh, what am I kidding, in this case I don't mean a jock. Eric Duran is the kid I'm thinking about, those of you who go to TL. He lives to make peoples' lives miserable.

BUT! That does NOT mean that he is ruining my life, nor any of them! I'm telling you that my current run of acting crazy is putting them off.

The reason I can't just ignore them is because I'm a leader of the DDR Club. We can't just hide that fact. These people come into the room right after lunch, when we're done, and the room is all hot and sweaty, even with fans on and windows open. Of course they're going to say something, and since I'm part of the cause, why not say something derogatory towards me?

Yet AGAIN! I can completely handle this, and I'm not suffering (any more of) a mental breakdown. Thank you, though.

( 8/12/02 07:27 PM)

Senator Bartuk:

If indeed they are as stupid as you make them sound, do you think they will even get what you are doing in the third wave or will they just think your being even more of a loser? just a thought.

( 8/12/02 11:14 PM)

Nessa:

Believe it or not Jeff, Ive been picked on too. I dont think I have met any single person out there who hasnt been abused by one middle schooler or another in their life. From first till eighth grade I was a dork, outsider, untouchable, chubby girl with a last name that sounded like garbage, and initials that sounded like fag.
Of course, that all changed the day some dumb sixth grade boy thought it would be entertaining to see what would Nessa do if he hit her with a shovel. Although i did have a huge bruise, he was the one the had to call 911 for. Dont mess with nerds, they figure out who they are and what they are made of after a while. In the end, we are stronger and better people from what we had to go through as little tykes.

(15/12/02 12:17 AM)

JeffreyAtW:

Amen. Besides, I can now bench press 150 and I'd kick any of their asses at DDR :P

Well, it's a start. Oh yeah, I'm smarter than they are, too.

(16/12/02 12:04 AM)

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